Taking the first step to begin therapy at 40 with Lorna is by far one of the best decisions I have made in my life. My sessions with Lorna have helped me to recognise my experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on my life. Through this process, I have finally been able to admit the truth of how I have been emotionally abused throughout my childhood and into my adult life. The work I undertook over several months was to armour myself with self-protection tools and coping strategies to use going forward. Completing therapy, having Lorna by my side on this journey of self-exploration, growth, healing and recovery I have now come out of the darkness and can finally see the light. Lorna is warm, compassionate, empathic, honest, sincere and open and had her own personal experience of narcissistic abuse, which I found massively helped me to relate to her and the type of therapy she could offer to me. In the future if I ever feel I need to have therapy again or I am having a day where I am struggling, I know she is only an email/Skype call away and I wouldn't hesitate to get in touch if I needed too.
But for now, I am 40 years of age, finally free and about to embark on a new chapter in my story of my life.
Highly recommended, you won't be disappointed.
Lorna, keep shining your bright light in a dark world.
If I hadn't had therapy with Lorna, I would be in the same turbulent place I was two years ago. I came to Lorna having suffered panic attacks and anxiety that had stopped me from being able to function. I couldn't go to work or make any social plans for roughly two years. It was completely debilitating. I thought there was something innately wrong with me. Through therapy I discovered that I was suffering the effects of narcissistic abuse and thanks to Lorna, was able to find the strength to honour my boundaries with my narcissistic father. In the last year and a half, I have only had two panic attacks. I now work five days a week and have a good social life. I had dreadful social anxiety and through sessions with Lorna, she helped me understand where that stemmed from. Lorna showed me how to stop abandoning myself and helped me rework my mental and behavioural patterns so that I was more empowered. If I ever have a blip, I go back to the folder we created with all Lorna's guidance, information sheets and my notes from the books she told me to read (which were invaluable) - and I can realign. I will never forget how incredibly professional, kind and patient Lorna was. I still can't quite believe how much we covered in such a short amount of time and how deeply changing the sessions with Lorna were.
I was completely new to therapy when I began working with Lorna, and I’m so glad I did. Nearly a year post-breakup, I had plateaued in my recovery from a poignant narcissist relationship and felt stuck, unable to see a future for myself.
Lorna walked me through the journey of inner healing, helping me to unlock each of the many doors leading to the rediscovery of my self. Eight months on and I can finally begin to look forward; feeling free, no longer governed by past trauma, and knowing myself better than ever.
For me, Lorna was a guardian angel, a saviour when I felt like I was spiralling down into a deep dark black hole – deflating over and over again with every breath I took. I approached her out of desperation to ‘fix’ my marriage and deal with the toxic influence of my narcissist mother-in-law. She helped me break out of the cycles of emotional and psychological abuse and shone a light on how I was being gaslighted to the point where I felt like I couldn’t recognise myself. She showed me ways of asserting healthy boundaries to protect myself and eventually helped me arrive at a decision on my marriage.
Lorna really helped me, she heard me when I felt like no one was listening to me or even understood what I was saying. At the time, it felt like I was talking a different language, everyone I spoke to about the abuse behaved like I was overreacting or reading too much into things (including a CBT therapist). Sadly, that is how insidious narcissistic abuse can be. And in my case, coming from a narcissistic culture/society and family, a lot of the behaviour (firstly, ingrained) is also considered normal.
I thankfully found Lorna who understood exactly what I was talking about, how I felt and what I was going through. She truly understands the subtle nuances of it all and has a very in-depth understanding of the personality disorder and culture.
Lorna empowered me, helping me shrink my inner critic and shame, showed me ways to access and reach deeper into my childhood to uncover the core wounds and embedded traumas. She gave me lots of tools, materials and readings to gain awareness around the subject and equipped me with a bountiful toolbox. She showed me ways of nurturing and growing myself, cultivating self-care and self-compassion to heal, grow and live. And most importantly, she very patiently held space for me as I traversed through this painfully dark (very necessary and in its own way beautiful) journey.
Today, as I walk tall towards this mesmerising flood of light engulfing me stronger and brighter with each day, I would not have been able to do it without her!
She truly understands and cares, and that made all the difference!
Highly recommended. Lorna was excellent for me. Warm yet challenging and extremely informative providing plenty of material to access outside of sessions i.e worksheets, books and online videos. I progressed quickly and was able to end therapy earlier than anticipated. Lorna's ability and knowledge regarding narcissistic mothering together with the inner child work we did has equipped me to become stronger and more self-reliant. The process has been invaluable to me.
Lorna encouraged me to be proactive and try out various different things to see what worked rather than sticking to one rigid way of doing things, and she instantly always knew how to keep the sessions on track and keep me focused. It felt great to have someone to both understand and have valuable, powerful guidance to offer. I’ve been let down before in therapy and was reluctant to try again, but I’m glad that I did. Thank you Lorna, you’ve helped me to make a difference in my life.
I always knew that my relationship with my mother was not healthy, but it was not until receiving counselling from Lorna that I realised why: my mother is a covert narcissist. No-one else had believed that my mother was capable of emotional abuse, or that I had suffered it. Lorna helped me to see the truth of my childhood, and why I continued to feel like a bad person. She diagnosed me with OCD, a result of childhood trauma, which has enabled me to finally find a way out of my crippling negative thoughts. Thank you, Lorna. Thank you for believing me and giving me my life back.
“When I first contacted Lorna seeking her help I wasn't sure I actually needed the help of a therapist, but I had tried so many other things and nothing else had really helped me to figure out the answers to the questions I had and re-occurring issues I felt I needed to tackle in my life.
She was easy to talk to over Skype and by the end of the first appointment I felt for the first time someone had listened to me, heard what I was saying and actually understood what I was talking about.
Over the following weeks she helped me to open up and talk about current issues I was going through as well as deeper issues I'd buried a long time ago, which lay unresolved and festering inside me. She used an array of different techniques and therapies to help me work through them gradually. She also taught me a range of techniques and therapies so I could help myself day-to-day as I continued through the healing process.
I went from feeling like I was confused and alone in a deep dark hole I couldn't climb out of, to standing at the top of the hole having filled it in, patted the soil firm on top and now building on the solid ground onwards and upward. Lorna threw me the rope ladder to get out of the hole and guided me up each rung, she gave me the spade to fill the hole in, and now she's got me back with my feet on the ground she's working with me to set me on the right track to build the life I've longed for for so long.
Lorna's help and support has led to me coming to terms with and starting to heal from years of narcissistic abuse and I'm now working towards a brighter future of my choosing, feeling in control of my life and free to finally be me. She has explained it's a lifelong healing process and she's equipping me with the skills I need to continue on this path myself.
I have already recommended her to one of my closest friends as I'm so pleased with how she has helped me.”
Working with Lorna was the absolute best decision I have ever made. Her professionalism from the very beginning put me at ease. After my initial consultation it was obvious that Lorna had a complete and total understanding of my issues and gave me hope that she could help me move forward. I was stunned at the speed at which my progress happened and how amazing I felt after working with Lorna. It definitely feels like a “before” and “after” that I wasn’t expecting. In all honesty, I had faith that Lorna could help me, but I didn’t think that I would feel this amazing after working with her. My life, my mood and my overall wellbeing have improved significantly. The moving forward and not needing to see Lorna any more is bitter sweet. It’s amazing to know that I have the skills that I need to keep myself progressing, but I’ll miss having someone who understands what I’ve been through and can empathise and has so much compassion. But, I feel completely empowered and confident moving forward on my own, knowing that if I need her support again, it’s available to me.
At 62, after emotional abuse since my early teens, I knew I needed help to deal with my 86 year-old narcissistic mother . I searched my local list of therapists, desperately looking for someone who specialised in Narcissistic Personality Disorder. There was no-one with the right knowledge locally, but I found Lorna who offered therapy via Skype. I only needed a few sessions but the results have been astounding. To have someone who really does understand the disorder, to have my experiences validated, to be given practical tips on how best to handle my situation, has been so worthwhile. Undertaking the sessions via Skype wasn't a problem at all, in fact, more comfortable to be doing it in my own home. I now feel calmer, I have the books that Lorna recommended to refer back to, and I feel more optimistic about handling the future. I just wish I had found her years ago.
Lorna approached all of her sessions with me with an air of professionalism and partnership – we were there to uncover truths in the spirit of discovery and to overcome limitations. It was very refreshing to be able to talk freely in a non-judgmental environment and allow my truth to come out. Months later, I am mentally healthier, happier and overall more balanced than my former self, and I am grateful to Lorna for helping me get to that point. A great companion on the journey.
Lorna has provided me with the support and tools to successfully challenge the damage done by a narcissistic mother. At the beginning of our therapy I was unable to cope with the thoughts and feelings I was experiencing. Now, at this point in my recovery I feel much stronger and more capable of moving past the abuse I have suffered. The counselling has touched on all areas of my life and opened my eyes to the wide-ranging effects this type of abuse can cause, as a result I feel I can mother better and essentially live a lot more happily than I did previously. I particularly enjoyed the homework Lorna set, the books she recommended have all been of great benefit and kept me focused on my recovery between sessions. Most of all to talk to someone who truly understands narcissistic abuse has been invaluable. I cannot recommend Lorna highly enough.
I am a 56-year-old professional woman who considers myself to be a good judge of character. My world was turned on its head recently when I discovered that my 80-year-old father, who had always been tricky and difficult and in my view a narcissist, had been living a double life for decades and lying to all members of his family. He had also been causing deliberate rifts in the family to protect his secret.
I was floundering and had become obsessed about the lies and betrayal – given that he had always put himself on a moral pedestal and had cracked down hard on his children ever lying – to a point where I could barely function.
I tried face-to-face counselling with two local therapists but they just looked shocked when I told them the tale – not having come across this type of issue before. It was not general counselling that I needed. This is when I looked on the internet for a therapist who specialises in narcissism and turned to Lorna for help. I found her approach to be calm and measured and she was able to tell me that I was not alone in experiencing this sort of behaviour at the hands of a narcissist. This made me feel more normal. She also gave me strategies for coping with intrusive thoughts, both in session and via follow up e-mails which have helped to turn things around for me. I have come a long way in a two-month period thanks to Lorna’s help and guidance.
At the moment I am functioning fairly well on my own largely due the new coping mechanisms (and due to the fact that there is currently no contact between me and my father), but to know that she is there to help me if I need it again is such a comfort.
I would highly recommend Lorna
With Lorna's guidance, I have finally come home to myself after years of suffering from my narcissistic parents' emotional abuse and controlling influence. If you have found your way to Lorna's work, it is very likely that you could benefit from her counsel. My advice? Start now. You deserve to feel good and empowered in your life, and Lorna will offer you the tools to get there. Keep showing the way, Lorna!