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Highly recommended. Lorna was excellent for me. Warm yet challenging and extremely informative providing plenty of material to access outside of sessions i.e worksheets, books and online videos.  I progressed quickly and was able to end therapy earlier than anticipated. Lorna's ability and knowledge regarding narcissistic mothering together with the inner child work we did has equipped me to become stronger and more self-reliant. The process has been invaluable to me.
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Lorna encouraged me to be proactive and try out various different things to see what worked rather than sticking to one rigid way of doing things, and she instantly always knew how to keep the sessions on track and keep me focused. It felt great to have someone to both understand and have valuable, powerful guidance to offer. I’ve been let down before in therapy and was reluctant to try again, but I’m glad that I did. Thank you Lorna, you’ve helped me to make a difference in my life.
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“When I first contacted Lorna seeking her help I wasn't sure I actually needed the help of a therapist, but I had tried so many other things and nothing else had really helped me to figure out the answers to the questions I had and re-occurring issues I felt I needed to tackle in my life.
She was easy to talk to over Skype and by the end of the first appointment I felt for the first time someone had listened to me, heard what I was saying and actually understood what I was talking about.
Over the following weeks she helped me to open up and talk about current issues I was going through as well as deeper issues I'd buried a long time ago, which lay unresolved and festering inside me. She used an array of different techniques and therapies to help me work through them gradually. She also taught me a range of techniques and therapies so I could help myself day-to-day as I continued through the healing process.
I went from feeling like I was confused and alone in a deep dark hole I couldn't climb out of, to standing at the top of the hole having filled it in, patted the soil firm on top and now building on the solid ground onwards and upward. Lorna threw me the rope ladder to get out of the hole and guided me up each rung, she gave me the spade to fill the hole in, and now she's got me back with my feet on the ground she's working with me to set me on the right track to build the life I've longed for for so long.
Lorna's help and support has led to me coming to terms with and starting to heal from years of narcissistic abuse and I'm now working towards a brighter future of my choosing, feeling in control of my life and free to finally be me. She has explained it's a lifelong healing process and she's equipping me with the skills I need to continue on this path myself.
I have already recommended her to one of my closest friends as I'm so pleased with how she has helped me.”

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Working with Lorna was the absolute best decision I have ever made. Her professionalism from the very beginning put me at ease. After my initial consultation it was obvious that Lorna had a complete and total understanding of my issues and gave me hope that she could help me move forward. I was stunned at the speed at which my progress happened and how amazing I felt after working with Lorna. It definitely feels like a “before” and “after” that I wasn’t expecting. In all honesty, I had faith that Lorna could help me, but I didn’t think that I would feel this amazing after working with her. My life, my mood and my overall wellbeing have improved significantly. The moving forward and not needing to see Lorna any more is bitter sweet. It’s amazing to know that I have the skills that I need to keep myself progressing, but I’ll miss having someone who understands what I’ve been through and can empathise and has so much compassion. But, I feel completely empowered and confident moving forward on my own, knowing that if I need her support again, it’s available to me.

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At 62, after emotional abuse since my early teens, I knew I needed help to deal with my 86 year-old narcissistic mother . I searched my local list of therapists, desperately looking for someone who specialised in Narcissistic Personality Disorder. There was no-one with the right knowledge locally, but I found Lorna who offered therapy via Skype. I only needed a few sessions but the results have been astounding. To have someone who really does understand the disorder, to have my experiences validated, to be given practical tips on how best to handle my situation, has been so worthwhile. Undertaking the sessions via Skype wasn't a problem at all, in fact, more comfortable to be doing it in my own home. I now feel calmer, I have the books that Lorna recommended to refer back to, and I feel more optimistic about handling the future. I just wish I had found her years ago.

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Lorna approached all of her sessions with me with an air of professionalism and partnership – we were there to uncover truths in the spirit of discovery and to overcome limitations. It was very refreshing to be able to talk freely in a non-judgmental environment and allow my truth to come out. Months later, I am mentally healthier, happier and overall more balanced than my former self, and I am grateful to Lorna for helping me get to that point. A great companion on the journey.

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Lorna has provided me with the support and tools to successfully challenge the damage done by a narcissistic mother. At the beginning of our therapy I was unable to cope with the thoughts and feelings I was experiencing.  Now, at this point in my recovery I feel much stronger and more capable of moving past the abuse I have suffered. The counselling has touched on all areas of my life and opened my eyes to the wide-ranging effects this type of abuse can cause, as a result I feel I can mother better and essentially live a lot more happily than I did previously. I particularly enjoyed the homework Lorna set, the books she recommended have all been of great benefit and kept me focused on my recovery between sessions. Most of all to talk to someone who truly understands narcissistic abuse has been invaluable. I cannot recommend Lorna highly enough.

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I am a 56-year-old professional woman who considers myself to be a good judge of character. My world was turned on its head recently when I discovered that my 80-year-old father, who had always been tricky and difficult and in my view a narcissist, had been living a double life for decades and lying to all members of his family. He had also been causing deliberate rifts in the family to protect his secret.
I was floundering and had become obsessed about the lies and betrayal – given that he had always put himself on a moral pedestal and had cracked down hard on his children ever lying – to a point where I could barely function.
I tried face-to-face counselling with two local therapists but they just looked shocked when I told them the tale – not having come across this type of issue before. It was not general counselling that I needed. This is when I looked on the internet for a therapist who specialises in narcissism and turned to Lorna for help. I found her approach to be calm and measured and she was able to tell me that I was not alone in experiencing this sort of behaviour at the hands of a narcissist. This made me feel more normal. She also gave me strategies for coping with intrusive thoughts, both in session and via follow up e-mails which have helped to turn things around for me. I have come a long way in a two-month period thanks to Lorna’s help and guidance.
At the moment I am functioning fairly well on my own largely due the new coping mechanisms (and due to the fact that there is no currently no contact between me and my father), but to know that she is there to help me if I need it again is such a comfort.
I would highly recommend Lorna

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With Lorna's guidance, I have finally come home to myself after years of suffering from my narcissistic parents' emotional abuse and controlling influence. If you have found your way to Lorna's work, it is very likely that you could benefit from her counsel. My advice? Start now. You deserve to feel good and empowered in your life, and Lorna will offer you the tools to get there. Keep showing the way, Lorna!


Copyright Lorna Slade 2019
lorna@iwtherapy.com
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