About Me - Lorna Slade Counsellor and Psychotherapist

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Counselling works for people and it could work for you.

I take an integrative approach, which means I use a wide range of tools, techniques and therapies. While friendly and approachable, I am results-oriented as I recognise that you want to make a real and lasting change. Depending on your presenting issue(s) and goals for therapy, my aim in an overarching way is that you will learn to become your own therapist.

I specialise in narcissistic abuse and decided to do so after decades of experience of the disorder in family and relationships. Narcissistic abuse is often misrepresented in the media, which tends to focus on the list of classic traits that are easy to see in a grandiose narcissist. But these portrayals do victims no favours because narcissistic abuse is often a lot more mundane and therefore hard to identify in real life. The cumulative effect of this kind of abuse can mean a look or tone of voice from the narcissist can throw you into a cptsd-like emotional flashback or regression to the adapted child ego state, while those around you don’t notice a thing and are more than ready to tell you you’re being ‘oversensitive’ or ‘imagining it’.

Years of working with victims of narcissistic abuse means that I have a deep knowledge of the problems that are its legacy. I can help you grieve for what you went through and what you didn’t rightfully receive, and then help you develop a self-compassionate and empowered survivor concept, able to control your thoughts and emotions and deal with a narcissistic family nest or workplace without being re-traumatised.

I understand the emotional difficulties of going and maintaining no contact, and whilst I absolutely do not ask that of my clients, for those who have made that momentous decision, or come to it through our therapy, I can support them through the vital work of focusing on their own growth.

I offer face-to-face or skype counselling as people communicate as much through their body language as they do verbally.

I am fully CRB checked and a registered member of the BACP. I am on a register that has been accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

I worked as a volunteer counsellor for Basildon Mind for more than three years. While at Mind I trained in the Rewind technique and can work with people with PTSD.

Advanced Professional Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling (Ad Pro Dip PC) National Counselling Society.
Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Counselling Skills (Dip Hyp CS) National Hypnotherapy Society.
Applied EFT Level 2 (Practitioner) certificate


Testimonials

Highly recommended. Lorna was excellent for me. Warm yet challenging and extremely informative providing plenty of material to access outside of sessions i.e worksheets, books and online videos.  I progressed quickly and was able to end therapy earlier than anticipated. Lorna's ability and knowledge regarding narcissistic mothering together with the inner child work we did has equipped me to become stronger and more self-reliant. The process has been invaluable to me.

Lorna encouraged me to be proactive and try out various different things to see what worked rather than sticking to one rigid way of doing things, and she instantly always knew how to keep the sessions on track and keep me focused. It felt great to have someone to both understand and have valuable, powerful guidance to offer. I’ve been let down before in therapy and was reluctant to try again, but I’m glad that I did. Thank you Lorna, you’ve helped me to make a difference in my life.

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